I'll address the second part of your comment first......
In my experience, there is no difference in boys and girls coaches and very little difference between boys and girls players. They both know how to complain, they both know how to whine, and they both know how to coach.
As far as the difference in officiating boys and girls games, particularly the "ticky tacky" foul perception.......
The game is different. Anyone who denies that is denying reality. In general, the boys know how to absorb and play through contact without it affecting their rhythm, speed, balance, or quickness. It's not the end all-meets all barometer for calling fouls, but it is something we consider.
Maybe a better way to describe this is the guys generally can get from point A to point B with contact than girls can get from point A to point B with contact. That deviation in the route has to be addressed with a foul call.