This thread has gone on so many tangents, it is hard to keep track of all of them. I have not seen anyone, ,myself included, say that a referee should say what you said he said. I think the main point was unless you directly heard him, something can easily be taken out of context. I have a son who is about to start high school next year, and you would not believe the spin he can put on a message I relay to him, or how out of context he can take something I say to him.
In general, a ref is not supposed to coach anybody. I umpired a baseball game and a team pulled a hidden-ball trick. Coach whose team fell for it yelled at me that it was bush league. And I simply said to him, "coach, my job is to enforce the rules, not judge them" and that was it.
There is zero reason to disparage a kid for winning by 15 takedowns. My only thing is he may have said something about a comment the wrestler made, or an action (I referenced a kid flashing a grin for the photographer, something along those lines) and then the kid came off the mat saying he gave me crap for destroying that guy.