I've been legitimately looking to get more into Zen Buddhism and meditation
Do it, it's fascinating stuff. The eastern world view is just so completely different than the west. Really has the ability to change the way one thinks. Haven't delved into mediation yet, but want to start at some point.
When I went thru my divorce, another divorce(ing) friend used the escape scene from Shawshank as an analogy for our current status in life.
We had just finished crawling through a tunnel of e, and now we were standing in the rain, free of the tunnel. The smell of the e was still on us, we were wet and cold, and didn't know where we were going from here, but at least we were free.
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there."
The little boy then understood how powerful his words were. He looked up at his father and said "I hope you can forgive me father for the holes I put in you."
"Of course I can," said the father.
It's not always anger, it is your actions in general. There are no "fresh starts" in life. There is no new beginning. Forgiveness comes easy for many people but the scars of the past, they never go away. Watch what you do today, because sometimes the price isn't worth the reward.
Our former HS football coach, and it has been since adopted and used by the current coach, would say "If you want to be successful, help someone else be successful".
On a recent flight I had the flight attendant said something that I thought was interesting..he was referencing how he wanted everyone's attention (off your phones, devices, etc). He mentioned how he knows everyone is busy with their phones and such, and that this goes for life in general as well as just his instructions he was about to give.
"it is nice to be important, but more important to be nice"
"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." - Mark Twain
I had thought that quote was from Lincoln (in fact, my father had a plaque with that quote attributed to Lincoln), but apparently, my father's plaque was wrong. And Mark Twain didn't say it originally either: